“Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code by Michael Kimmel

To be a man is to be tough and to show no fear, this is what most fathers teach their sons. This has been going on for decade's, men are supposedly the strong ones, the ones that have the authority. According to “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code by Michael Kimmel  not only occurs in home but masochism is everywhere. It mostly starts in high school when  kids are starting to become men and women, Michael talks about a “Guy Code” which are the values, qualities, and the attitude that defines a man. I find it true that men focus more into physical attributes and that women look on the emotional. If men see that another man is not as masculine as they are, they start name calling them just because they don’t act as tough as them. Also when girls see that guy  talking to them normally and don’t try showing some interest in them, they think that he is gay. I find it interesting when Eminem was being questioned on one of his interviews about how he kept saying faggot in one of his songs. He said that calling another man a faggot is just to take their manhood away from them. To say that they are weak not necessarily that they like other men.  Another thing that caught my attention was men don’t act tough just to impress women, they act like this because they want to be well evaluated my other men. I believe that it’s worse for a man to fit in because guys just try to see who is better than the other one that’s why a lot of guys try to join gangs just to prove each to other how tough they are. That's why men become depressed and violent because they try so hard in proving themselves, then everything goes wrong and they can’t control the situation.